Company You Keep and Company I Keep

Read this if you are interested in hearing what type of people I’d like to meet.

I have been privileged.  Because of my previous liaison work and passion to learning, I have had the chance to meet some of the most influential people in the world.

Eric Schmidt of Google

Dr. Muhammad Yunus of the Grameen Bank

Michael Milken of the Milken Institute

Al Gore

TEDsters

Award winning actors.

Technology Tycoons

Legendary VCs

Diplomats

Nobel Laureates

All that good stuff.  Yes they are very interesting people.  Yes they have accomplished a lot in their life time.  Yes I get caught up in my exhilaration every time I meet these celebrities.

Don’t mistake my exhilaration to obsession.  I don’t really care about the gossips about their every move.  But I am appreciative of what value they stand for and the discipline they have to accomplish what they have.

And do I hope their accomplishments rub off on me?  Ahh yes!

But, don’t mistake my appreciation to these accomplished people to snobbery.

I believe that it is within the ability of all of us to accomplish similar feats.  All talent and IQ aside.  It is through shear will and determination to gauge one’s success in life.

If you want something, go for it.  How many rags to riches story have you heard?  The only person who can stop you is you.

Therefore, I believe that I can learn something from everyone and everything.  As a matter of fact a few of my biggest lessons were taught to me during my volunteering days in NYC homeless shelter.

But I digress.

Here is a quote I came across that best describe how I feel about this.

The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shriveled and closed
from the fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own,
without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own,
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic,
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul;
if you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty, every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure,
yours and mine,
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
‘yes.’

It doesn’t interest me to know
where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you,
from the inside, and when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah Mountain Dreamer

If we are truly defined by the company we keep, what kind of company are you keeping in your life?   Do an inventory check on the 5 closest friends you have.  The average of their characters, drama, conversations, networth, and family is you.

What will you change about the company you keep now?

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From Ancient Chinese Philosophers: Secret Tips to Evaluate People

Old Chinese Guy

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Read this if you find people fascinating and you want to understand your partners better.

I am student of human behaviors.  I find people fascinating.  Fascinating but equally perplexed.

For example, men’s obsession with cars and women’s obsession with shoes.

I’d like to be able to predict the general behavior of someone.

So over the years I have studied Myers Brigg and other personality typing methodology and body language analysis.  And more recently dabbled in the art of handwriting analysis.   I learned that there aren’t any silver bullets that can determine someone’s behavior with absolute certainty.  Human beings are complex human beings after all.   Like Sigmund Freud said: “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.”

This morning I came across a Chinese passage that condenses what I have learned from all the years of watching people in a just few sentences.

to evaluate a man’s character, watch his eyes
to evaluate the worth of a man, watch who he picks as his opponent
to evaluate someone’s potential, watch how he spends time alone
to evaluate someone’s true self, watch people surrounding him
to evaluate someone’s personality, watch how he writes
to evaluate if someone is happy, don’t watch how he smiles, watch the first facial expression when he wakes up in the morning
to evaluate the size of someone’s tolerance, evaluate his reaction during failure and betrayal
to evaluate someone’s courage, watch how he faces death
to evaluate the true relationship between two people, watch how anxious one gets when the other is in danger

As well as I know myself, I tested these statements against myself.  Thinking back the moments when I had faced death a few times, the test is accurate. It also gave me an opportunity to evaluate how I have grown over the years.  How I acted when I was 5 versus 15 versus 20 and so on.

Take a moment to reflect back how you acted and reacted when you faced the circumstances stated in the quote.  Are they accurate?

Hope this helps you gain more clarity in who you are and what you stand for.

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Free Wifi Hotspots in Orange County for Internet Entrepreneurs

Ready this if you are interested in free wi-fi spaces in the Orange County area

With my new focus on internet marketing and publishing, I found myself in a lot of meetings that require everyone to have wi-fi.

Unfortunately, not all wi-fi is free and not all wi-fi locations are created equal.  It’s quite frustrating at times to find the perfect  meeting spot that works for not only me but everyone I work with.  Would you agree with me?

Since I live in the Orange County area, I decided to compile a list of locations suitable for business settings.

Here is my criteria:

1.  Free wi-fi.  You may be surprised by the lack of access in cities as a whole.  Restaurant and coffee shop owners, why wouldn’t you install them at your business place?  Free wifi=free traffic and more goods and services.

2.  Quietude.  Ahh..yes.  But not too quiet where business discussions can’t happen without other patrons give you the look.

3.  Comfortable seating/standing options.  If you haven’t tried working standing up, try it.  You’ll be amazed by the amount of focus and energy you will have.

4.  Whiteboard.  Visual learners and list builders, this is for you.  Like my living space, I need space for brainstorming and action items.

After scouring the internet, here is the compilation other people recommend:

  • Boudin Sourdough Bakery 2803 Main St, Irvine
  • UCI University Library 4512 Sandburg Way, Irvine, CA 92612, USA
  • Champps Americana 51 Fortune Drive Suite 500 Irvine, CA 92618
  • Corner Bakery Cafe 91 Fortune Dr, Irvine, CA 92618, USA
  • Earth Cafe 5409 University Dr Irvine, CA 92612
  • Java City 18100 Culver Blvd. Irvine, California 92603
  • Cha for Tea Cafe 4187 Campus Drive Irvine, CA 92612
  • Tully’s Coffee 4610 Barranca Pkwy Irvine, CA 92604-4735
  • Diedrich Coffee
  • Peet’s Coffee & Tea
  • Panera Bread

I am going to evaluate these entries based on my criteria and let you know.

Where do you work?  Do you settle for uncomfortable, noisy places for your business meetings?

Go write down your criteria.

I’d like to know what criteria you use to find the perfect spot for your productivity.

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Social Media’s Importance in Foreign Affairs

Social Media’s Importance In Foreign Affairs

It’s no shocker that Iran’s recent elections have made the headlines of every major news network.

However what IS noteworthy is the role social media is playing in the recent turmoil.

Keeping information and content within your region or country has become literally impossible thanks to the world wide web.

The same holds true for social networking via Twitter, Facebook, etc.

Iranian citizens are able to keep the rest of the world updated in a 140 word blurb on their Twitter, a valuable resource that didn’t use to exist.

This new social media turn is refreshing and innovative, no longer will we question what really IS going on in a protesting country or nation.

This is an unforeseen route that social media has taken, we have always looked at Twitter or other social media sites as vehicles for personal or company gain…now we have opened up a completely different door.

Personally, this is a thrilling turn for us aspiring innovators, because this shows that we have more resources to cause change and connect people than previously considered.

I only hope that this sort of connection does not get abused or misused, it would be naive to rule out any sort of cyberwarfare or attacks against outside governments.

Thus, with admiration and caution, I end this blog entry, and log onto my Twitter to view the latest updates.

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Managing Your Social Life via Apps

Managing Your Social Life via Apps

So you have your Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Myspace.

Do you check them all every day?

Are there some sites you end up neglecting?

With the help of social aggregators, you can manage your social life more effectively.

The following aggregators have been designed to do just that:
• Atomkeep: designed to sync all your profile information among multiple social networks.
• Digsby: involves instant messaging, e-mail, and social networks. It integrates social networks like Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, and LinkedIn with a newsfeed and alerts.
• FriendBinder: Works by adding all your social networks on your FriendBinder profile and all updates appear. You can also update your Twitter and Facebook statuses as well.
• FriendFeed: From Netflix to Twitter, this social network site allows you to receive updates from a large number of sites, and also lets you subscribe to other users’ feeds.
The verdict according to CNET? FriendFeed and FriendBinder are the top two social aggregate picks.

The overall concept is great, manage all your social profiles in one spot, communicate better, etc.

However is it too much? Are social networking aggregators too overwhelming?

Some say yes, others swear by them.

Worst case, manually manage your social profiles, however now there are alternative solutions.

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